Keeping Your Children Safe

Don't teach your child FEAR. Teach them the skills to defend themselves.

I am very concerned that with the rash of recent child abductions and attempted child abductions, that many parents are going to fill their children with fear instead of teaching them awareness and skills to avoid becoming a victim.

As a parent, I understand the worry and fear we have about the dangers that are lurking out there that might harm our children.  As a professional Martial Arts Instructor, I don't understand why more parents aren't enrolling their children in programs that are designed to teach protection skills to their children.

Certainly, I teach those skills in my TaeKwonDo school in Glen Rock, but if not with me, you should enroll your child in any of the better martial arts schools in the area, so that they can learn to recognize, avoid or get away from dangerous situations.

Parental worry and fear is easily recognized by the child and unconsiously adopted by them as well.  Would you like your child to grow up living their life in fear?  I wouldn't.

We all know that education is the best answer to most problems and a solid education in the martial arts will offer benefits well beyond your current understanding.

I am a Certified member of the "Community Emergency Response Team" and a Volunteer with my town's Ambulance Corps.  I would hate to have to respond to an emergency involving a child, that could have been avoided.

If you have any questions or would like to discuss this issue further, please call me at:  201 670-7263.  I am always available to you.


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JAFO October 26, 2012 at 10:03 PM
It's called volunteering. Yes, charge for your services at your place of work, but donate your expertise for the basic safety of kids. Who knows, a little goodwill may go a long way to securing new clients.
STB November 10, 2012 at 04:35 PM
Gary, I can't agree with you more that you should be paid for what you do, just as a doctor or a dentist, etc. While I appreciated your article and will suggest to my wife we enroll our kids in either your class or one like it, I just don't agree with some of your conclusions. I was the youngest of three boys raised by our father. Not only did we fight, I took karate as well and was big for my age. That said, I submit to you, when it comes to a physical confrontation, kids, no matter how prepared, are simply no match for an adult of average strength, including me when I was a kid. To suggest a kid can adequately physically defend himself is right up there with bringing a "knife to a gunfight." On the other hand, teaching kids awareness, teaching them to run, teaching them where to run I would agree are highly effective. I also like the idea of my kids being tough enough to easily handle other kids, which is realistic with fundamental martial arts instruction. But when it comes to your teaching kids and talking to parents, I would humbly suggest you refrain from telling them they now have the skills and tools necessary to win in a dynamic critical incident. I fear you may infuse in a lot of kids who might otherwise run away a belief they've got a chance in what will almost always be an unwinnable fight that will ultimately lead to their abduction. Again, I like the idea of my kids taking your class, just with the aforementioned concerns.
Gary Stevens November 10, 2012 at 04:45 PM
Sam, Thank you for your kind words. In my blog I did say that I teach: " so that they can learn to recognize, avoid or get away from dangerous situations." I often demonstrate to the children in class that no matter how good their skills are and no matter how confident they are in them, they are not a match for an adults strength. Having said that, I also teach them simple skills that are not based on muscle power that might help them get away. The most important lessons I teach are awareness and an understanding of how and when to get away. I also teach my adults that in a life threatening situation, if tey go punch for punch with a street fighter they will lose, even if they have a higher level Black Belt. Our defense skills are trained to protect us quickly and get away before it becomes a fight and a match of strength.
STB November 16, 2012 at 09:07 PM
Thanks, Gary. yes, i just read your article again and i missed that on the first go around. we need to get our kids into martial arts classes.
Gary Stevens November 16, 2012 at 10:34 PM
STB. I'd love to have you and your family in our school. Right now, we are running a $99 one month which includes a uniform. It would be a great way to see if our school is the right one for you.


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